This week Sam Faiers, of The Only Way Is Essex fame, featured in a TV show named ‘The Baby Diaries’ with her boyfriend and father of her baby, Paul.
Paul had many foibles according to viewers, but nothing caused more outrage than ‘the kiss’.
While discussing the impending birth of his first child with his Mum the pair got very emotional and shared a kiss, on the lips.
Do you kiss your children on the lips? I do. Every single day.
Of course I don’t have a child older then 4 years so I don’t *think* this will be seen as odd.
When will I have to stop though? When will we be odd by kissing on the lips?
At what age will my child be when they lean in for a kiss as they have always done and I will be duty bound to say, sorry, that ship has sailed.
I’ll be honest, the kiss was lengthy and I have never seen a man of that age and his mother share a kiss in that way before. I took some time to process my thoughts on it.
Why do more adults not kiss in this manner? Well, because it prompts reaction like this of course.
We have such a sexualized view of the world we find it difficult to separate sex and affection. Affection does not always lead to sex.
I know you’re probably rolling your eyes and thinking here she goes on her soapbox again, but it is true.
We see similar arguments when it comes to parents bathing with their children. Nakedness does not always lead to sex.
Sex in our society is all encompassing but we are so much more than that.
We are affectionate and loving and crave closeness with the ones we love.
Kissing my children on the lips will never be anything more than an expression of the love and adoration I have for them and I hope they never feel so shamed by society they would have to turn their cheek.